If you're having trouble losing weight, or having a hard time controlling your appetite, try to figure out if it's because you're hungry or something is bothering you.

In the fight against weight loss, I have really had to look at why I overeat. If you find yourself eating not because you're hungry, but because your emotions are in a mess. try to determine what makes you overeat.

Are you having problems with your spouse, children, work, parents, or just stressed in general? Do you feel overworked, under appreciated, ignored, lonely, sad, unloved, angry, frustrated, were just plain confused about life?

Start keeping a diary, of everything you eat each day for a month. When you eat, try to determine if you are hungry or if something has upset you. In your diary, write down the emotions you were feeling that made you want to eat.

I have found that nine times out of ten, people eat not because they are hungry, but because someone has upset them or there feeling one of these emotions. If you can determine what problems and emotions cause you to overeat, or eat foods that make you gain weight, you will have a better chance of keeping your overeating down to a minimum.

If you live with negative people, find a way to not let them get to you. When they try to get to you, close your eyes and focus on your positive feelings and thoughts.

Try to do things you enjoy, focus on a hobby, take a class you would enjoy, take time out every day to focus on your needs. If you're having problems with the people in your life and can't avoid them, try meditating.

Take five minutes to relax sit in a chair with your feet flat on the floor and your hands in your lap. Close your eyes, and relax each muscle starting with your feet, work up to your ankles, then you're calves, knees, thighs, hips, take a deep breath and relax your stomach, back, shoulders, shake out your arms while taking deep, slow, breaths. Now relax your head, drop your head to the right, then the left, forward, then backwards.

Say to yourself, I am relaxed, I feel good about me, and no one can make me feel any different. I am a good person, and I deserve respect, love, and happiness. I will not accept, or let anyone take these things from me. Repeat this over and over to yourself for five to ten minutes.

Do this anytime, you feel stressed or unappreciated. Do not accept anything less than you are a deserving, loving human being who does not have to take anything that hurts your feelings from anyone.

You cannot change the way other people act, you can only change how you react to them. As long as you are in control of you're emotions no one can control you.

Love yourself, treat yourself with respect, accept only the things that make you feel good and let the rest slide by as if it never happened. Once you have learned, to not let anybody get to you, then you will be truly happy and in control of your own life.